Month: May 2018

Me Time Habits

Me time/Self care, I am happy to say is quite a common phrase these days. It is so important for physical and mental health. Since becoming a mum and having a chronic condition I have really realised just how important it is.

You don’t have to set off to an expensive spa to get the me time and it can be 5 minutes or an hour its really up to you. I often hear people say “I don’t have time’ and it really bugs me because if you have 5-10 minutes to scroll through facebook… then you do have time.

These are the things I do to help me hit reset and recharge:

  1. Sounds so silly to actually write down but I breathe, I sit down for 2 minutes and breathe in and out deeply, I use the breathe app on my Apple Watch for this but set a 2 minute timer, or download the millions of apps designed just for this purpose. If you have 10 minutes I 100% recommend the Headspace App.
  2. Shower/Bath, sounds a bit mental to use personal hygiene as that me time but if you can be alone…. usually once Jake is in bed or James is playing with Jake. I milk this on a Tuesday and Friday when its hair washing day haha!
  3. Cooking, now I rarely use this and if I do use it, it is when Jacob is at school. Just batch cooking pasta sauces to cooking fairy cakes, as long as I am totally on what I am doing I find it relaxing.
  4. Spending time with my friends, mainly friends I can 100% be myself around, I find it so exhausting worrying about saying the right thing so when I am with certain friends where it doesn’t matter if I say something weird, they just get me, I come away relaxed.
  5. Listen to music and clean, haha now I know this is odd if you hate cleaning and if this is the case then just listen to music and have a boogie but I love putting Kisstory on my Alexa and cracking on with the dusting.
  6. Read with Jacob, we take turns in reading and it is so nice listening to Jacob read to me, he does get bored though so we swap which I love.
  7. Sticking with the reading… my Kindle has been my best friend I love it.
  8. Watching Netflix, I find finding something to binge on is brilliant, I have been watching Suits and I am hooked.
  9. Playing a game on my phone, nothing better than putting my phone on Airplane mode and playing Best Fiends… addictive, annoying and totally distracting from thoughts of daily life.
  10. And last but not least, writing. I lost the love for writing for awhile but slowly I am getting it back. Instead of writing on my laptop I have been putting pen to paper and its so therapeutic.

Hope this has given you some tips to just get even 5 minutes to yourself. Forget the housework for 5 minutes and washing and do something that helps reset the brain. I don’t do all of these in one day because I am a mum and have a life, but it is easier to grab those 5 minutes now Jacob is 5, at school and a lot more independent. XO

 

Daydreamer GlossyBox (May 2018)

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I received my Glossy box and was instantly in love with it. The box is beautiful! All the contents in this months box are cruelty free which is a huge bonus. I haven’t really been too excited the last couple of boxes but I am glad I am excited to try every product in this months box.

They have used soft pastel hues to go with the tranquil feel of the products and they really are going to be a treat on my next pamper session and I can’t wait to dive in and test the products. But here my first thoughts…

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Jelly Foot Soak – This is a luxury foot soak, and I love me a foot soak.. filling a bowl and relaxing for a bit. I love it, I know I will probably give myself a pedicure when I use this too to make it even more of a treat. It claims to moisturise and sooth tired feet. It has Lemongrass and Lavender. It is a powder that mixes with water and turns to a gel, which is interesting, then when you’re done you add the second sachet and it turns the gel back to water. Magical!

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True Soft Shampoo and Conditioner – I have seen this duo before I think in my local trade shop and been tempted but I didn’t want to pay out and not like it so I am happy they have included the minis in this box. The shampoo and conditioner are vegan friendly, also sulphate and paraben free. The shampoo aims to soften, moisturise and strengthen the hair to make the hair shiny and frizz free. The conditioner is a multi tasking one and can be used as a deep conditioner for 3 minutes, so will go perfectly for that pamper evening I have planned.

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Kueshi Make Up Remover – I don’t get too excited with make up remover if I am being 100% honest, this is a oil and water one and says it will gently clean away all my troubles so I can drift off to sleep cleansed and happy… a magical claim haha. This is for sensitive areas and has on the bottle it removes waterproof and long lasting makeup. I will definitely give an update on this once I have tried it.

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Trifle Cosmetics Praline Palette – I have a few eyeshadow palettes and I tend to stick to my usual brown and golden eyeshadows, this palette is really sweet and is quite small so perfect for travelling. The general tone of the palette is very up my alleyway… with the brown/gold but also a nice purple in there that I could use as an eyeliner perhaps, same with the grey shade. The shadows are all shimmery but very pigmented. I am keen to try and use the rusty red/brown shade in Autumn.

We Are Tea Earl Grey – I love tea, I love Earl Grey and I will saving this beauty for my pamper evening, whilst my feet soak and have my favourite Netflix show on. Personally I think Glossy box should add a selection of teas every month haha.

Overall, super happy with this months box! XO

Have I really lost that sparkle?

This is something I have wanted to write for awhile now, but before I get into my huge post that no one will read and is purely really just for me to get some word vomit out, I feel like I do need to just pay attention to the fact I haven’t posted since February (I am sure no one has noticed though haha) and I will explain why…

Middle of Feb I just didn’t want to write, just lost the love for it. I then took the decision end of March to step back from all social media, dip in as and when and leave group chats on Whats App. Nothing personal to anyone as I love all the girls I was in a group chat with but I really felt like stepping back is what I should do and the time I was spending on social media whilst Jacob was at school I should be productive… get OUT and see my friends in real life than on a screen….go for that coffee (you know the one that everyone says we should all do but never do….) and most importantly chat in bed in the evenings instead of having my back to James on my phone. To be fair I still go on my phone in bed when the football is on, as I am loving Best Fiends… but I have been reading SO much more. It was helping with my sleep too.

So, the purpose of the title… someone very close to me mentioned awhile a go that the sparkle in my eyes had gone, I am not myself, I need to remember I am a person outside of being a mum…and I have changed….

Well.. I have changed, I am a mum, I am not that selfish 20 something going out getting drunk and dancing on bars…. and I will be honest, when I look back on photos I do have a sparkle in my eyes. Things were VERY different then. Some people (even those close to me) forget that not only did I become a parent 5 years ago and was the start of the most amazing part of my life, it was also the start of a condition that has been constant since. If you are not new around here, you will be aware of the coccyx condition I have and I try and make light of it and say it could be worse (which I 100% stick by as it could be a billion times worse) however, being in pain every single day takes its toll some days and it has also given me the evil anxiety that makes me overthink just about everything, which I do have under control majority of the time with the help of meditation (Headspace app is amazing FYI) and an excellent support network.

This is not to say I am not positive as I am positive most days especially as I have amazing family and some incredible friends supporting me but those rare days it digs its heels in, I cry a lot, normally when I am on my own as I refuse to let it affect everything, my son being number one… Jacob knows I have a bad ‘back’ but I will never let on just how bad it is, as it will never stop me being the mum I want to be, and it can go to hell if it thinks it will stop me going to the cinema with my boy… even if I am then in more pain for 3 or 4 days after.

But you know… despite the attempts of positivity I guess the lack of sparkle in my eye is a symptom of what I live with and in a way I did know before it was said that it was the case but to hear someone that loves you say it out loud.. well… it stung… and they didn’t  mean it in a horrible way they just want whats best for me, and I love them dearly for it as I know if it was the other way around I would have said the same and it has certainly given me the kick up the arse (sorry couldn’t help myself there) to push doing more things that I know help the pain, so it definitely had the desired effect haha.

That sums up what was on my mind and I am hoping after reading and posting this I will get the bug for writing again as I love blogging and everything that goes with it 🙂

Hope you’re are all good and a massive well done if you’re reading this far down! XO