Category: Life

Me Time Habits

Me time/Self care, I am happy to say is quite a common phrase these days. It is so important for physical and mental health. Since becoming a mum and having a chronic condition I have really realised just how important it is.

You don’t have to set off to an expensive spa to get the me time and it can be 5 minutes or an hour its really up to you. I often hear people say “I don’t have time’ and it really bugs me because if you have 5-10 minutes to scroll through facebook… then you do have time.

These are the things I do to help me hit reset and recharge:

  1. Sounds so silly to actually write down but I breathe, I sit down for 2 minutes and breathe in and out deeply, I use the breathe app on my Apple Watch for this but set a 2 minute timer, or download the millions of apps designed just for this purpose. If you have 10 minutes I 100% recommend the Headspace App.
  2. Shower/Bath, sounds a bit mental to use personal hygiene as that me time but if you can be alone…. usually once Jake is in bed or James is playing with Jake. I milk this on a Tuesday and Friday when its hair washing day haha!
  3. Cooking, now I rarely use this and if I do use it, it is when Jacob is at school. Just batch cooking pasta sauces to cooking fairy cakes, as long as I am totally on what I am doing I find it relaxing.
  4. Spending time with my friends, mainly friends I can 100% be myself around, I find it so exhausting worrying about saying the right thing so when I am with certain friends where it doesn’t matter if I say something weird, they just get me, I come away relaxed.
  5. Listen to music and clean, haha now I know this is odd if you hate cleaning and if this is the case then just listen to music and have a boogie but I love putting Kisstory on my Alexa and cracking on with the dusting.
  6. Read with Jacob, we take turns in reading and it is so nice listening to Jacob read to me, he does get bored though so we swap which I love.
  7. Sticking with the reading… my Kindle has been my best friend I love it.
  8. Watching Netflix, I find finding something to binge on is brilliant, I have been watching Suits and I am hooked.
  9. Playing a game on my phone, nothing better than putting my phone on Airplane mode and playing Best Fiends… addictive, annoying and totally distracting from thoughts of daily life.
  10. And last but not least, writing. I lost the love for writing for awhile but slowly I am getting it back. Instead of writing on my laptop I have been putting pen to paper and its so therapeutic.

Hope this has given you some tips to just get even 5 minutes to yourself. Forget the housework for 5 minutes and washing and do something that helps reset the brain. I don’t do all of these in one day because I am a mum and have a life, but it is easier to grab those 5 minutes now Jacob is 5, at school and a lot more independent. XO

 

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Have I really lost that sparkle?

This is something I have wanted to write for awhile now, but before I get into my huge post that no one will read and is purely really just for me to get some word vomit out, I feel like I do need to just pay attention to the fact I haven’t posted since February (I am sure no one has noticed though haha) and I will explain why…

Middle of Feb I just didn’t want to write, just lost the love for it. I then took the decision end of March to step back from all social media, dip in as and when and leave group chats on Whats App. Nothing personal to anyone as I love all the girls I was in a group chat with but I really felt like stepping back is what I should do and the time I was spending on social media whilst Jacob was at school I should be productive… get OUT and see my friends in real life than on a screen….go for that coffee (you know the one that everyone says we should all do but never do….) and most importantly chat in bed in the evenings instead of having my back to James on my phone. To be fair I still go on my phone in bed when the football is on, as I am loving Best Fiends… but I have been reading SO much more. It was helping with my sleep too.

So, the purpose of the title… someone very close to me mentioned awhile a go that the sparkle in my eyes had gone, I am not myself, I need to remember I am a person outside of being a mum…and I have changed….

Well.. I have changed, I am a mum, I am not that selfish 20 something going out getting drunk and dancing on bars…. and I will be honest, when I look back on photos I do have a sparkle in my eyes. Things were VERY different then. Some people (even those close to me) forget that not only did I become a parent 5 years ago and was the start of the most amazing part of my life, it was also the start of a condition that has been constant since. If you are not new around here, you will be aware of the coccyx condition I have and I try and make light of it and say it could be worse (which I 100% stick by as it could be a billion times worse) however, being in pain every single day takes its toll some days and it has also given me the evil anxiety that makes me overthink just about everything, which I do have under control majority of the time with the help of meditation (Headspace app is amazing FYI) and an excellent support network.

This is not to say I am not positive as I am positive most days especially as I have amazing family and some incredible friends supporting me but those rare days it digs its heels in, I cry a lot, normally when I am on my own as I refuse to let it affect everything, my son being number one… Jacob knows I have a bad ‘back’ but I will never let on just how bad it is, as it will never stop me being the mum I want to be, and it can go to hell if it thinks it will stop me going to the cinema with my boy… even if I am then in more pain for 3 or 4 days after.

But you know… despite the attempts of positivity I guess the lack of sparkle in my eye is a symptom of what I live with and in a way I did know before it was said that it was the case but to hear someone that loves you say it out loud.. well… it stung… and they didn’t  mean it in a horrible way they just want whats best for me, and I love them dearly for it as I know if it was the other way around I would have said the same and it has certainly given me the kick up the arse (sorry couldn’t help myself there) to push doing more things that I know help the pain, so it definitely had the desired effect haha.

That sums up what was on my mind and I am hoping after reading and posting this I will get the bug for writing again as I love blogging and everything that goes with it 🙂

Hope you’re are all good and a massive well done if you’re reading this far down! XO

2018

Well here we are… 2018… Monday 1st January feels all kinds of cleansing and fresh that it instantly makes me feel positive about sticking to some “resolutions” I didn’t do toooooo bad at last years… I didn’t do too great either but achieved so much in 2017 and had some massive changes! Positive ones though of course.. like going self employed! I still can’t believe that I was brave enough to leave my “safe” job.

Anyway this is no time for reflection on the last year this is all about the future and the positive vibes I intend to take into the new year.

So here goes my modest list of resolutions that I hope to make easy enough to stick to… although I’ll probably fail by the time I’ve hit publish haha!

  1. Drink more water blah blah blah (I don’t do too bad but could do with more)
  2. Meditate/breathe for at least 3 minutes a day.
  3. Read a book a month…. A MONTH!
  4. Push my nails a bit more and work harder in all things beauty.
  5. Complete at least one more beauty course before December.
  6. Save for next Christmas.
  7. Budget a bit better and not buy things I really don’t need.
  8. Have more family outings.
  9. Spend less time on my phone and only do blog related shiz on my laptop.
  10. Eat healthier in general, not cut anything out but make better choices.

So please wish me luck, I think I am going to need it! What are your New Years resolutions for 2018? XO

Happy New Year from us xoxo

Merry Christmas

If you’re not into soppy posts I would probably click off if I was you haha.

I just wanted to take the time to wish you all a very Merry Christmas, also a massive thank you to everyone who has taken the time to read my blog this year, to take the time to like and comment, I have not taken my little space on the internet for granted once. I know I am not a massive blogger or big in any way so I do appreciate every view.

This year has probably been the most up and down year of my life. Lots of weddings, including my own, and if you’ve been around here you’ll know the saddest part of my year. I now plan to look forward.. only forward. 2018 I am determined to make a positive one, I have a lot planned and although January will be testing in more ways than one I know I am strong enough to get through anything because I have my family and friends right by my side, my parents are always there whenever I need anything and I love them so much and of course my amazing lad to keep that smile firmly on my face.

Talking of my friends, I would like to say a special thank you to the Archie girls. I love you girls so much. The daily what’s apps, laughter and the support we have is irreplaceable, not to mention my rants regarding a certain subject haha (inside joke there kids)

So here is to a very Merry Christmas, an amazing new year and a happy, healthy and positive 2018. I will be back here in January, back to schedule. XO

Top 5 Christmassy Films

This is going to be one of those really cliche posts but I love love LOVE Christmas films and thought why not do a post all about the ones I love?!

These are a few of my favourites and I am sure everyone has heard of them…

1. Elf… I love everything about this film, it’s funny… and a little bit sad if I’m honest… and makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. I still can’t imagine Buddy having a baby.. he seems too innocent to be getting jiggy haha.

2. Polar Express… I hadn’t seen this film until this year and it’s one of my favourites already, Jake loves it too which makes me love it even more. Also the little boy that doesn’t get Christmas usually… totes made me cry. I have this recorded on my Virgin Box but really want the dvd!

3. Frozen… I know this isn’t really a Christmas film but it makes me feel so festive. I love snuggling up with Jake and James on the sofa and giggling away. Olaf is a little cutie!

4. The Holiday… Jude Law… does anyone watch this film for any other reason? I mean he’s such a babe and so sweet. The film gives me such feels!

5. Bridget Jones… the first one. The one film that literally makes me belly laugh so much. I have some lovely memories of seeing this film at the cinema (yes I’m that old!) I pop it on whenever I feel like I need a giggle. It also gives me the bug to start journaling and narrating my life! I don’t because that’s weird…

What is your all time favourite Christmas film? I would love to know so I can watch them! XO

My Favourite Christmas Jumpers

I did share some of my Christmas jumpers last year but these are this years favourites… yes some same as last year but whatevs…. I love a Christmas jumper and if I’m honest I would wear one all year round, or perhaps a Christmas dress in summer because it’s hot but you get the idea… I love them.

Anywho here they are….

Some of these I’ve had for year and some are new additions!! My favourite has to be the Avocado one which is from H&M, I have loved avocados forever… even before they were “cool” shocking huh?

I would love to have some more Christmas jumpers, where is your favourite place to buy them? XO

A Catch Up 

Another catch up…. I haven’t posted since the 15th October, I have been doing so much! Went back to work for a couple of weeks, been doing nails and met some lovely ladies whilst doing that! Also we had an awesome half term!!! Did so much and really spent some quality time together as a family as James was off too.

Anxiety has been a bit pants and little Jake has been unwell with a chest infection. He is all good now though and hopefully getting somewhere with the doctors. They have been amazing with my little man though and couldn’t fault them.

I have also completed my lash and brow course, which is super exciting. I am planning to learn Indian head massage which I thought would be a nice extra to add to a facial. I am so lucky I have been able to leave my job to do what I really love doing and I am so grateful for that.

I seriously thought about doing Blogmas but I just don’t think I have the brain space haha. It being the 1st December and all ready for Christmas it’s now time to finish writing cards, wrapping presents, Christmas crafts, mince pies and Christmas films. So I will be publishing posts but not every day.

Hope you have all been well! What have you been up to?

XO